Q I have two children, boys ages 7 and 4, with a man who takes no interest in them and hasn't seen or communicated with them in approximately two years. Up until about six months ago, I never dated. I'm now in a relationship with an incredible man who also has a 4-year-old daughter. Basically, I can see my boys getting attached quicker than I anticipated. I don't want to be selfish or jeopardize my boys having more "daddy issues" because of someone else not being there in the future, but I also don't want to pass up something that seems so positive in all our lives. A part of me questions why I would even consider doing something that puts the boys at risk in any way. The only alternative I can see would be to never date anyone until they're grown, and although some say that is what is right, I'm not sure I agree. I realize some dialogue needs to take place about the future as it involves the kids, but I'm unsure what questions to ask, even though I know there are no guarantees. I'd appreciate any guidance on this.
