Creativity expert, professor, father and former day care provider Rustin Wolfe writes a weekly MinnMoms parenting advice column that uses creative punishments to put a positive spin on negative behavior.
Here's one of his creative solutions:
WHAT WOULD YOU DO?
Question: How can I get my daughter to pay attention to the imminent consequences of her bad behavior?
Behavior: Ignoring warnings.
Problem: Continuing bad behavior.
Solution: Activate that little voice in her head.
Activity: If I type, "and like a good neighbor," you probably can't help but finish the rest of the jingle in your head. Part of what makes this technique effective is that it forces the audience to take on an active role. To do this with your daughter, get down to her level, make eye contact and engage her. Don't just talk (or yell) at her. At the very least, ask her to repeat what you're saying. But preferably, don't tell her the consequence at all. Instead, ask her what she thinks the obvious consequence will be. Ask her if she wants that to happen. Then ask her what she plans to do about it. This will force her attention into a more rational analysis.
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